Rule No. 7: Every woman wants to be somebody's Chelsea

I wish I could say I know what it's like to be on the mind of a man, missing me, wanting to talk to me. It's everywhere.  Pictures of happy couples.  I have realized I'm doing something wrong.  I want to be the reason a man can't wait to get home because he's going to see me.  While driving home will call to see how my day was.  I want a man to love me for me....all the curves of m body, all my little quirks, and the fact I don't put on a front.  

What does it take?  My parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary last summer.  My sister and I have heard the story of how they met time and time again.  Hearing it makes it sound like something out of a cheesy sitcom. And if mom hadn't met dad, and continued to date the man she was dating, my last name could very well be Pretty. Yes, it's funny...have a laugh.  These days, meeting by happenstance doesn't occur that much.  I rarely hear of any "set ups" or I know this friend who has a friend.  And yet, couples are everywhere.  Newly engaged couples, couple who have been together for what seems like ages, new couples still navigating the dating game.  Trying to figure out when to have the talk or decide if they want to see that person again.  I've been there. Always trying to figure out if I get a second or third chance with the One Date Wonder.  

I find it hard to believe that women (and I know a few) don't really want a boyfriend.  In their mind, that means having to work at a relationship.  Someone mentioned to me she wants an "instant" relationship.  The other one doesn't really care about dating at all.  I told them neither was going to convert me.  I want to be that picture in his wallet.  I want to have that great love story to tell. Whether it's a Tinder story [and that would be rare] (not happening mainly because my phone can't run it anymore), or a Match story, or simply I saw him in  a bar and decided to walk over kind of story, I want one.  As a facebook person of mine kindly and sweetly proclaimed, it's time for the last first date.  These one date wonders are not fun anymore.  I don't really want to hear crickets again.  

In today's dating arena, it's become hard to become someone's one and only girl. You're either "talking to" a few possible suitors or having to create a spreadsheet so tardiness or mix ups won't be an issue.  As much as I've been told to "keep my options open" and play the field, I don't think I can do that.  

Just the other day I was not only messaging a man from Match but a match from Eharmony I messaged decided to return the favor.  Then, for whatever reason, he went MIA.  The Match Guy  V2 (no not the same one - gosh I wouldn't do that again!) eventually won and we swapped numbers.  My walking buddy emphatically stated she didn't want to be married again or have a relationship; although the FWB relationship she was in at the moment seemed to suit her just fine.  She had been married and had children; that's all she wanted.

I realize my dating skills need work.  I need to be reminded to not have expectations - high or otherwise.  Act breezy casual.  What is it my soul sister said?  Remember be calm and collective.  I want that last first date.  A fantastic love story that can be told over and over.  I wonder if any man has been told by a woman she wants to be somebody's Chelsea if she is unhappy.  That could be something to try.  Too I haven't heard from the Coward (or as my neighbor likes to call him "the dick"), I think I would tell him that.

Somebody's Chelsea....that's what I want to be.  But until then, I'll be Dating and Afraid!

Be brave out there....but careful!

Christina