So if you've been following my other blog about my weight loss journey.....Glitter All The Weigh.....then you know the last 2 years have been a whirlwind. While losing the 200 lbs, I was introduced to the single life and dating after being out of it for soooo long. Although I was getting dates, I was getting them the wrong way. But it was a lesson that took me time to learn.
My dating misadventures were sprinkled through my weight loss blog. But I decided to stat a blog dedicated to just that. Just in the last two years I have been out on more one date wonders than in the previous 25 years of my life. Some have been wonderful and then others I almost wanted to say "Seriously!"
During this last year of exploration and allowing myself to be who I want to be, I was thrown into the world of men finding me beautiful, but having hidden agendas. I am not used to the attention, whether it be in the meeting room of Weight Watchers or coming from a strange man. That was one of the main lessons I had to learn. Men know just what to say to a woman to get her to believe whatever he says.....as this woman did. After just about every meet and greet (what I call the first date), I would come home and google everything the man did. What does it mean if he did this? He said this, what does it mean? I was beginning to think dating and being single was going to be too hard.....too many rules to follow.
I asked a friend I went to school for some input from a man's perspective. He said there are no rules. Then why is the web filled with them. If he wants a second date, he'll ask for one on the first or within 3 days. If he's interested he'll text you no matter what. Never be the first one to text after a first date. Ugh!! He did confirm that if a man is interested he'll text no matter where he is or what he's doing. Then I had girlfriends contradict this rule. I didn't know what to believe anymore.
If you have followed me on Glitter All The Weigh, I hope you follow me on my new blog. It'll be anything but boring I can assure you. And maybe you can offer some advice. I have more stories to share but this post has gotten long enough so off to start another one.
Christina
My dating misadventures were sprinkled through my weight loss blog. But I decided to stat a blog dedicated to just that. Just in the last two years I have been out on more one date wonders than in the previous 25 years of my life. Some have been wonderful and then others I almost wanted to say "Seriously!"
During this last year of exploration and allowing myself to be who I want to be, I was thrown into the world of men finding me beautiful, but having hidden agendas. I am not used to the attention, whether it be in the meeting room of Weight Watchers or coming from a strange man. That was one of the main lessons I had to learn. Men know just what to say to a woman to get her to believe whatever he says.....as this woman did. After just about every meet and greet (what I call the first date), I would come home and google everything the man did. What does it mean if he did this? He said this, what does it mean? I was beginning to think dating and being single was going to be too hard.....too many rules to follow.
I asked a friend I went to school for some input from a man's perspective. He said there are no rules. Then why is the web filled with them. If he wants a second date, he'll ask for one on the first or within 3 days. If he's interested he'll text you no matter what. Never be the first one to text after a first date. Ugh!! He did confirm that if a man is interested he'll text no matter where he is or what he's doing. Then I had girlfriends contradict this rule. I didn't know what to believe anymore.
If you have followed me on Glitter All The Weigh, I hope you follow me on my new blog. It'll be anything but boring I can assure you. And maybe you can offer some advice. I have more stories to share but this post has gotten long enough so off to start another one.
Christina
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