Patti Stanger, you know the woman who says she's a third generation match maker, has this quote and now for the life of me, I can't remember word for word. It goes something like everyone deserves love but not everyone finds it. I'm beginning to think that's me. I know, I know, I've only been in the dating game for a short time compared to others, but good lord, how many strikes does it take? I really thought this last one had potential. I guess men are all the same in some respect. They all play the same game, just with different rules or strategies.
I was hoping to explore something with the latest interest. I mean, all the signs were good. He asked the right questions, said the right things. Made me feel special. So what could have happened in a week? We go from a great time last week, him saying he wants to see where I live, wants to see who I am, exhibiting great potential to lack luster texts the last few days. I know he's busy and probably tired from work. I presented the opportunity and his response was less than what I was expecting. I keep telling myself that the phrase "I would love to, but already have plans...." means he cares enough to respond. It was short notice.
My friends do not like to see me unhappy, and probably do not know how to respond, so they say the only things that come to mind. Those darn, boring single people cliches. After a while, you just go numb. Then there's that dreaded ball. There's a court out there somewhere covered in these balls. Can't you just pick it up and do something with it?! Among all the dating disasters, there was just ONE guy who had the adult attitude to tell me there was no chemistry.
This rule applies to a couple of situations. So, my hopes were burst by this guy sending me a text basically dumping me....ending whatever may have started. What was I supposed to say to this lengthy text? To be the bigger person, I just replied with a thank you for being honest. Just nod and say okay.
The other situation is when I decide to, for the hundredth time, to give up. It's exhausting and I have too many things going on in my head to keep up with another set of game rules. I'm tired of trying to figure you out. Tired of wondering what's going to happen. Tired of hearing those words, apparently meaning nothing. What do y'all want? Why won't you get in the game and do something?
So I just ask that my friends nod and say okay. Don't follow it up with a cliche, all purpose statement. Ugh! I am so tired of playing these games. I am not in my 20s or 30s anymore. I do not understand how my friends did this! So, if any single guys are reading this, don't worry, I am not going to be flirting, trying for anything, etc. You can come out of hiding and heave a sigh of relief.
Ugh!
My friends do not like to see me unhappy, and probably do not know how to respond, so they say the only things that come to mind. Those darn, boring single people cliches. After a while, you just go numb. Then there's that dreaded ball. There's a court out there somewhere covered in these balls. Can't you just pick it up and do something with it?! Among all the dating disasters, there was just ONE guy who had the adult attitude to tell me there was no chemistry.
This rule applies to a couple of situations. So, my hopes were burst by this guy sending me a text basically dumping me....ending whatever may have started. What was I supposed to say to this lengthy text? To be the bigger person, I just replied with a thank you for being honest. Just nod and say okay.
The other situation is when I decide to, for the hundredth time, to give up. It's exhausting and I have too many things going on in my head to keep up with another set of game rules. I'm tired of trying to figure you out. Tired of wondering what's going to happen. Tired of hearing those words, apparently meaning nothing. What do y'all want? Why won't you get in the game and do something?
So I just ask that my friends nod and say okay. Don't follow it up with a cliche, all purpose statement. Ugh! I am so tired of playing these games. I am not in my 20s or 30s anymore. I do not understand how my friends did this! So, if any single guys are reading this, don't worry, I am not going to be flirting, trying for anything, etc. You can come out of hiding and heave a sigh of relief.
Ugh!
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