After having many one date wonders, I thought why chase after something that's probably not there? I often have friends suggest I do this or that. Text this. Email that. Wait for him to do this. What!? No. Really? Their reply is "Then the ball would be in his court." Ahh! The dreaded ball! I told my friend the ball usually gets tossed to someone else's court or just stays there. Do guys really know when the ball is in their court?
This last week I took a chance and got out in the wicked weather to meet a guy. He sounded so nice on the phone and he made the effort to get out so I thought why not. I thought the date went well. He made me laugh and we seemed to get along. I mean he told me he liked me. There was mention of a second date. I am the literal kind. I am going to believe someone when they tell me they like me. When someone says "we know where our next date is going to be" and "I'm looking forward to it too," I believe it's genuine.
History suggests that women let the men pursue them. And I believe that.....I will admit that I like to be pursued. I like the fact a man may think of me in the morning and send me a text. Or anytime throughout the day. But in today's world, women find it hard to let go of the proverbial ball and let it drop. I know I do. Although I like the guy to do the "leg work," I also feel like sometimes I need to nudge it along. I've been told that's not the way to do it. The ball is in his court and if he wants to pick it up, he will. Sometimes I feel they pick it up but don't necessarily know what to do with it. Interference with the age old dating game is frowned upon. In fact, the ritual of dating is quite ancient that has not caught up with modern times.
I suppose some of my moves could be construed as intrusive. Maybe it's because on one hand I like the mystery of not knowing his true intentions. On the other hand, maybe it's the benefit of the doubt and the fact he's busy. I understand men like the chase. I sometimes wonder if the chase can be different depending on the man. What I think I do right is apparently wrong! Wrong wrong! So this guy and I texted through yesterday. And now today nothing. I know, I know. It's only been one day, but doubt starts to set in. When in truth, reading the dos and don'ts, he decided he wasn't interested.
So yet another one date wonder goes down in the books. I've had quite a few of those. I do much better when a man is upfront and owns the fact he is not interested. I don't do well with the mixed signals. I read in an article to think of dating as ballroom dancing. Follow a man's lead and you'll never lose. I guess that would explain my lack of success since I can't dance worth a flip!
Here's to over 40 dating and afraid!
Christina
This last week I took a chance and got out in the wicked weather to meet a guy. He sounded so nice on the phone and he made the effort to get out so I thought why not. I thought the date went well. He made me laugh and we seemed to get along. I mean he told me he liked me. There was mention of a second date. I am the literal kind. I am going to believe someone when they tell me they like me. When someone says "we know where our next date is going to be" and "I'm looking forward to it too," I believe it's genuine.
History suggests that women let the men pursue them. And I believe that.....I will admit that I like to be pursued. I like the fact a man may think of me in the morning and send me a text. Or anytime throughout the day. But in today's world, women find it hard to let go of the proverbial ball and let it drop. I know I do. Although I like the guy to do the "leg work," I also feel like sometimes I need to nudge it along. I've been told that's not the way to do it. The ball is in his court and if he wants to pick it up, he will. Sometimes I feel they pick it up but don't necessarily know what to do with it. Interference with the age old dating game is frowned upon. In fact, the ritual of dating is quite ancient that has not caught up with modern times.
I suppose some of my moves could be construed as intrusive. Maybe it's because on one hand I like the mystery of not knowing his true intentions. On the other hand, maybe it's the benefit of the doubt and the fact he's busy. I understand men like the chase. I sometimes wonder if the chase can be different depending on the man. What I think I do right is apparently wrong! Wrong wrong! So this guy and I texted through yesterday. And now today nothing. I know, I know. It's only been one day, but doubt starts to set in. When in truth, reading the dos and don'ts, he decided he wasn't interested.
So yet another one date wonder goes down in the books. I've had quite a few of those. I do much better when a man is upfront and owns the fact he is not interested. I don't do well with the mixed signals. I read in an article to think of dating as ballroom dancing. Follow a man's lead and you'll never lose. I guess that would explain my lack of success since I can't dance worth a flip!
Here's to over 40 dating and afraid!
Christina
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