My dating life lately seems to be like a puzzle. The only exception is that I'm gathering the pieces one by one (sometimes two by two) and I'm really not sure what it will look like when it's finished. The first several dates are similar to pieces of the puzzle. The norm is to open the box and find all the straight edged pieces to form a frame. These dates, like puzzle pieces, form somewhat of a framework of what is to come. But it may take time to put all the straight edges together. In the meantime, more pieces are being gathered and I am trying to fit them together. After each date I've had, it's like I've picked up a piece of the puzzle. There are certain things I learn from these dates....about myself and the dating scene itself. There's a lot of trial and error and every piece out in the middle is like learning something new. What takes priority. Hoping that piece will eventually connect with other pieces to evolve into an image.
Right now I feel like I have many pieces that don't connect. There's no framework to my puzzle. The last relationship with Match guy #1 was what I thought was the missing piece. But as hard as I tried, the puzzle wouldn't fit together. It wasn't a right fit. Maybe I was trying to merge two puzzles together that didn't go together at all. Then men and/or dates before and after him have been smaller pieces.
For some it takes longer to find that last piece that fits the puzzle and completes it. That's me. I've been on some dates where I thought he had everything. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized there was still a piece missing. I had a one date wonder on Saturday. He took me to a nice restaurant and seemed quite interested. You know, the calls every night, texts during the day. I was letting him lead. But then it all stopped. Although if truth be told, I wasn't all that interested in him (there were some bothersome things), it's still frustrating to be left to wonder. But I can say I picked up a piece of the puzzle.
Maybe because of the long list of "must haves" it's harder to find the right pieces. I look at my puzzle sometimes and realize it's mostly sky and green grass. And I tend to be a little envious of those that can find that last remaining piece and it fits right immediately. Several times I have felt as if I need to give the person a chance. Either they seem really nice or their profile reads like a statement for the perfect boyfriend. But then my intuition kicks in. Something may not feel right. And although sometimes I need to hear that dreaded single person cliche, I know deep down they're not for me. For one reason or another. It sucks big time. As much as I wanted it to work with Match #1, it just didn't. As great as a puzzle piece he might have been, he didn't fit my puzzle.
Who knows why some people complete their puzzle sooner than others! That's life. And on some days, I am okay with it. Then there are other days (like today) when I'd like to just give up. Scatter the puzzle I have across the floor. That's life. Dating and finding that one special person is part of a puzzle. Dating is, essentially, searching for the missing puzzle piece. Whether it be the last corner of the frame or that last piece in the middle.
I've been working on mine for quite some time. I'm tired. When I go on a date, I almost just want to say up front, can I just have my puzzle piece and go home? However it could be the last piece I'm looking for.
Until I find that last fitting piece, I'll be Dating and Afraid!
Christina
For some it takes longer to find that last piece that fits the puzzle and completes it. That's me. I've been on some dates where I thought he had everything. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized there was still a piece missing. I had a one date wonder on Saturday. He took me to a nice restaurant and seemed quite interested. You know, the calls every night, texts during the day. I was letting him lead. But then it all stopped. Although if truth be told, I wasn't all that interested in him (there were some bothersome things), it's still frustrating to be left to wonder. But I can say I picked up a piece of the puzzle.
Maybe because of the long list of "must haves" it's harder to find the right pieces. I look at my puzzle sometimes and realize it's mostly sky and green grass. And I tend to be a little envious of those that can find that last remaining piece and it fits right immediately. Several times I have felt as if I need to give the person a chance. Either they seem really nice or their profile reads like a statement for the perfect boyfriend. But then my intuition kicks in. Something may not feel right. And although sometimes I need to hear that dreaded single person cliche, I know deep down they're not for me. For one reason or another. It sucks big time. As much as I wanted it to work with Match #1, it just didn't. As great as a puzzle piece he might have been, he didn't fit my puzzle.
Who knows why some people complete their puzzle sooner than others! That's life. And on some days, I am okay with it. Then there are other days (like today) when I'd like to just give up. Scatter the puzzle I have across the floor. That's life. Dating and finding that one special person is part of a puzzle. Dating is, essentially, searching for the missing puzzle piece. Whether it be the last corner of the frame or that last piece in the middle.
I've been working on mine for quite some time. I'm tired. When I go on a date, I almost just want to say up front, can I just have my puzzle piece and go home? However it could be the last piece I'm looking for.
Until I find that last fitting piece, I'll be Dating and Afraid!
Christina