I decided to go off the Facebook grid for a while. A time to step back and focus on life without checking in with my every thought, every event of my life. A time to be away from daily reminders of what doesn't seem to be happening right now. I deserve it just like everyone else on social media is broadcasting about it. I was "unfollowing" those that seem to post that "in a relationship" announcement but realized if I kept doing that, then I would end up with no one to follow, Thus the reason to just go off the grid.
I tried a stint on Zoosk, OK Cupid, and I think Plenty of Fish, although after a while they all roll into one and are quite similar. I eventually deleted accounts on those sites. I was on Match for a few months and of course the service wants a paid subscription to see the 74 emails I received. So pay I did only to delete half of the emails.........from the undesirables. Ones that aren't my type, out of state, too old, too young. Men that say they want to know more, possibly get to know me. But run with their tail between their legs when I actually think they are serious. I think the same men make the rounds on all the sites. I recently had a date that turned out to be awkward that I was home by 9:30. I knew a dry spell was coming and that was probably a last yahoo! before it started.
And I suppose I am okay with a dry spell. Which is strange But then I am perusing Match.com and did a double take when I saw a guy I dated several months ago. The dates ended because an "old love interest" stepped back into his life. Apparently the love interest was escorted out or stepped out again. I stared at his profile and wasn't quite sure what to do. I sent him a wink and "favorited" him. Is it a sign? I am hoping so. After the dates stopped, I had a strange feeling he would pop up again.
I believe we are/were a good match but I wasn't in a good place at the time. Maybe he wasn't either but I know I wasn't. But now I am finally getting back to normal and maybe Cupid felt it was time to shoot the arrow again. It could be a sign but then again it's just a profile on a dating website. But I am hoping it's a sign. A chance for us to explore what I thought we were starting before. Then again, I've got to be okay if nothing happens. Sure, I'd be disappointed and I'd have to pretend I never saw his profile.
There is a good thing from checking out the profiles on these dating sites, including the ever popular Tinder. I have gotten good at calling out the fake profiles. The ones that are frauds and have stolen other photos to use as their profile. I caught someone using a photo of a captain or major in the army, then another using a picture of a well known speaker. Maybe I need to be a PI on the side!!
Maybe when people ask me this question: "How come you are still single? You're attractive intelligent, amazing, and creative." My answer should be, "I'm overqualified."
I'm Christina.....and I'm Dating and Afraid! Y'all have a great week.